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Why questions aren’t the way

by Adina Levy

You want to help your child’s language development. I get it! You want them to learn new words and you want them to be able to express themself better. Here’s one of the absolute biggest keys to supporting your child’s language development…

    πŸ›‘ Stop asking your child so many questions!

    πŸ’š Make comments. Narrate. Notice. Share your thoughts and observations

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    Here’s my challenge to you – subtly record a 3 minute interaction between you and your child.

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    Count how many comments you make. Comments are statements like this:

    β€œIt’s a green one”

    β€œI love Rice Bubbles too!”

    β€œOooo that looks squishy”

    β€œI wonder where Maxie has gone”

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    Count how many questions you ask. Questions can include:

    β€œWhich one do you want?”

    β€œWhat’s this?”

    β€œWhere is your hat?”

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    Ideally you want to have around 4 comments to every question. Use your hand as a visual reminder – thumb is for questions, fingers are for comments

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    Why is this such an important strategy? Asking lots of questions can put a lot of pressure on a child. Even if they know the answer (and they don’t always) it builds a testing, pressured relationship dynamic. When you make more comments, you’re equalising the relationship and modelling lots of great language that your child can use one day too!

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      Want to learn more about these ideas to support your autistic (or possibly autistic) child to build communication and connection? Please join me in the next 6-week Connect & Grow parent program.