But I won’t fit in the tent.


by Adina Levy

But I won’t fit in the tent.

But I’m too tired to move off the couch.

But I’m too distracted thinking about all the other junk on my mind.​


If I’d given in to these BUTs I would have missed out on this joyful moment of sharing a delicious (play dough) snack in the tent with Zoe.

I’m not saying that I always get in the tent, nor am I saying you always should. But I like to notice and wonder what happens when we dial up the connected moments just a bit, and challenge our busy, grown up, sensible excuses for missing out on connection.

Questions for you to ponder:​

🤔 When did you last say NO to joining in with something with your child (or your client/student) that might have led to fun connection?

🤔 Was you reason for saying NO a valid one, looking back?

🤔 What might have happened if you went with your child’s idea? What is the best that could have happened? What is the worst that could have happened?

🤔 How can you remember to try more YES to connection and push past the BUTs more this week?

If you want to learn more ideas for connecting with your autistic (or possibly autistic) child in a neurodiversity affirming way – I hope you’ll check out my online, on-demand course Connect & Grow.

This course is for curious parents of autistic (or possibly autistic) children aged around 1- 5 years old. Course access lasts for 12 months and you’ll get access to any updates and extra videos.

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